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My wife is a stay at home mom. When I get home after being out of town all week, I expect the house to be clean. I’d prefer dinner to be made. And if maybe, just maybe she could be wearing a little makeup- and dressed in a nice, low cut dress with her best Victoria Secret miracle bra on, that’d be great too!
Does that make me a sexist, chauvinistic, male pig?
I really love the idea of Blog Truth because I’m anonymous here. You guys don’t know me and I don’t know any of you. So I’m going to lay it on your guys in hopes of eliciting some honest feedback- especially from the ladies, regardless of supportive or critical it may be.
Am I a chauvinistic pig?
A few months back I put up a post on another blog I used to write for with a picture of my wife in a busty shirt with mid rift exposed, holding a plate of delicious pasta for me. The post title went into detail about how I had banned sweatpants in my home and was demanding more sex from my wife.
The fact that my wife agreed to pose for the picture at all, and the title made it pretty obvious that the post was meant to be light hearted. I simply wanted to stress the importance of BOTH husbands and wives keeping up a certain standard for one another in terms of appearance and yes… sex! The post received scathing comments with one commenter saying my article set women back 50 years and another blasting me as a sexist pig!
I dug in and defended myself of course, but the outrage from commenters did make me begin to question myself. Am I sexist? Is it wrong that I expect my homemaker wife to have certain things done and that I’d prefer she look decent for me? I after all more than reciprocate by trying to make myself attractive to her, constantly trying to lose more weight, and of course by being a good provider for our family.
We all have our roles
I’ll admit that I do treat my wife like she is an employee of the household. She is the homemaker. In my eyes doing dishes, cooking dinner, folding laundry and taking care of the kids is primarily her responsibilioty. It is her contribution to the family. It may not carry a paycheck, but it does have serious value. I was talking to a few friends of mine about it (who just so happen to be a lesbian couple) and they kind of acted like I was a backwards old redneck.
And what about expecting my wife to be dressed up a bit? I’ll unabashedly admit that when I get home from work after being gone all week, there really is nothing more I want than to walk in and see my wife in a slinky dress! Call me sexist if you like, but I don’t mess around on the road and I’m freaking horny by the end of the week! Does that make me a pig?
I have also started urging my wife to hit the gym three or four days a week. I do it! In fact, I go to great strides to make myself attractive to my wife, dropping about 50 lbs over the last couple years and as of yesterday, dedicating myself to 20 more by end of year! I want to see our relationship succeed, I want her to feel fulfilled and NOT want to screw around behind my back, and I’d like the same in return.
What say you? Am I Behind the Times?
I really want to know if I am in the wrong here? Personally, I don’t think I am but I could be wrong. I’m wrong about things all the time.
But before you are quick to any sort of judgment, hear me out. Everything I ask of my wife, I do in return without being asked. I also do not shy away from the house chores. If there is a sink full of dishes to be washed or dinner needs to be made, I’ll make it. But it is primarily my wife’s job just like I have a job of my own.
Of course, I have seen plenty of men who are genuinely sexist, chauvinistic, male pigs! I know guys who demand sex of their wives and bitch about their weight while they themselves are outright disgusting, fat bastards who pretty much smother the poor women in body odor and sweat every time they get lucky.
I also know hard working women who are in relationships with generally lackluster, lazy asses who really add no value to the relationship.
To these guys, I say fuck off. But if you’re a guy like me going above and beyond for the family and more than willing to reciprocate in all matters, is it not reasonable to expect these things of your wife?