I do not want children. I have no desire what-so-ever to produce offspring. I am not concerned with passing down my name, my genetics, nor any legacy. I’m a happy guy and I want to stay that way. I’m not missing anything, I’ve tried the dog thing, and taking care of something besides yourself sucks. Period.
I can hear the parents screaming now. You don’t know what you are missing! You are naive! Having a child and watching them grow is SO rewarding – and so the arguments go. Let me just say something – you are all full of shit.
My happiness is not tied to the existence of a smaller, younger, screaming, shitting, person that shares half my DNA. I do not need another person’s life to complete my own. Maybe you are just fooling yourself!
Society says: “Have a kid!”
Having a kid is something society has taught us to do. We should breed. We should head forth and multiply! It’s even in our religion, government, and genetics. We want sex, the Government gives us tax incentives, and “God” says married people should have orgasms to breed, not for pleasure! I mean who doesn’t love a cute kid? Maybe society just wants us to join the club – and be as miserable and bogged down as they are.
Everyone I know who has a kid is a liar too. How do I know? Because the one thing they complain the most about (their kids) is the exact thing they say is the best thing in their life. I call bullshit.
Seriously, if you tell me that having a kid completed you. If you say that having a kid is the most special thing to ever happen in your life. Or anything like that – then you are just trying to make yourself feel better about how bad having a kid sucks.
Disadvantages of Having a Kid
Kids are expensive, they get hurt, they get into trouble, they fuck up your house, they crawl on you, and I could get over all of that. The one thing I’m not sure I could stand is losing time. No more heading to the grocery store or out to dinner on a whim, no more sex in the kitchen just because I want to, no more weekend camping trips out of the blue, trips across the globe become “I have to find a baby-sitter”, and every convenience I once had suddenly becomes an exercise of “I would, but I have to watch the kids.”
Kids also wreck that shit when they are spat out of a women’s vagina. The once perfect breasts, smooth skin, tight ass, and sexual aura becomes a moody, orangutan titied, wilder-beast that survives by cutting your balls off for leisure. Why would I want to subject my self to a lifelong tenure of mediocre sex with a former hottie that is destined to be interrupted by crying?
If you say having children is a blessing – then you had no goals or life beforehand.
With so many alternatives to having children I can barely stomach the idea of ruining my wife’s body to produce a second me. I mean there are a million orphans going hungry at any given moment so why not adopt? Perhaps that is more meaningful than producing a child of your own. Adoption is a gift you give another human being – what can be more special than that?
Not having kids doesn’t make you selfish – it means you have different priorities
A lot of people call childless couples selfish, but that is a fallacy. People without children aren’t selfish they simply have different priorities that do not include kids.
I want to travel the world, I truly want to make it a better place, I want to help people – especially those that already exist. It almost feels more selfish for me to have two kids when I could use those same resources to help two children somewhere else – who have already been born – and are going hungry. Maybe having children in a world full of hungry ones makes YOU the selfish one.
In all seriousness
Have kids or don’t. I’m not sure either path is any better than the other. My overall point here is that no one should feel pressured by society to have children. For many people, especially those people who aren’t ready, having a child is a responsibility they aren’t financially nor mentally ready for. Let’s stop with the “let’s have kids by 30″ thing and start a “lets enjoy life” one.